What constitutes as a depressing life? Or how will you determine that your life really sucks?
Is it when your kid, although being a stay at home parent, still does not listen to what you say or ask him or her to do, that you feel that you’re inadequate?
Is it when you’re biological clock is ticking by the second and you still can’t find ‘somebody to love’?
Is it finding out that your teenage daughter is pregnant?
Is it finding out that one of your family or friends is into drugs?
Is it living longer than your offspring?
Is it having your wife and unborn child die at the same tie due to complications while giving child birth?
Is it finding out you have an untreatable disease or cancer?
Is it a husband or wife that lies to you? Not just your typical run of the mill lie, but a lie that he or she will not confess to even though there’s already a hard evidence of their wrong doing.
Is it a husband or wife that has brought upon you both physical and emotional abuse?
I once told someone that I would prefer someone to be brutally honest than a sweet talker but is full of lies. Both of which has its pros and cons. Both of which sucks!
Is it when you’ve already asked permission to go out with your friends, because there are times you don’t ask permission and your spouse gets pissed when you do that and even after informing him ahead that you’re going out, did what he wanted you to do - you come home to a locked door. Then after knocking for some time, the door opens and your husband wants to hit you for waking him up, when he was the one who locked the door in the first place, then telling you, you should’ve have come home.
Is it when you’re told by your ‘superior’ that you’re a disgrace and you are indeed in some way a disgrace but most of it is only because you are misunderstood?
Is it when both family and work life is down in the dumps?
Usually, when my family life is doing fine, work life is terrible or vice versa. But what if it’s both horrible???
When life sucks for me, or something comes up like a hurtful word from someone, my focus shifts to those who had their whole life in crutches, to those people who cannot even eat 3 times a day, to those kids who had no choice but to beg for money or sell things on the street, to those who has been raped, got someone from their family dying, to those who are orphans or victims of a heinous crime.
Often times, those who are sick and dying, whose life is supposed to suck end up more positive than those without health problems. Could it be because they know they are going to meet their Maker soon? Or that there would finally be no pain...
Is there a problem that you can’t get out of? If there’s a will, there’s a way right?
When you’re having a hard time dealing with your kid, can’t we just do what you can and hope they turn out ok?
Can’t we just accept the fact that we were meant to live this earth alone? And if we wanted a kid, we could always adopt or find some other ways...
Can’t we just accept the fact that your teenage daughter’s pregnant and your fury for what she has done is nothing compared to what she is going through right now?
Can’t we just hope that things work out for the people in our life that happens to be involved in drugs and just support them in anyway we can. Of course not by feeding their addiction but constant reminders of what life on that path would turn out.
Living longer than your children and having your wife and unborn child die at the same time, now that’s really depressing. Can’t we just think that their in God’s care now?
And finding out that you have an untreatable disease or cancer, can’t we just think that we will meet our maker soon and be glad of that fact... I was about to say ‘happy’ but of course, no one is happy dying. Even if you will no longer feel any pain, the pain you will cost to your love ones will be unbearable...
Lying husband or abuses you physically – change husband! Commitment to your spouse can only take you so far as there is no abuses involved.
Now, verbal abuse on the other hand is a more delicate matter. How thick is your skin? Does he really mean it or he’s just that brute? This will depend on how committed you are to your relationship with your family and with him...
Your work life sucks? Find another job.
I guess the bottom line is how you will take things. How you will catch the wave the ocean throws at you. Do you wipe out or do you ride along as long as you can... and whether or not you can accept certain things in life. That some people got it good and you don’t.
When life gets you down, get up. Or shoot yourself? No. Definitely not. You can say I’m saying these things because I haven’t experience anything of these things I’ve mentioned and possibly some other tragedy in life I wasn’t able to mention. I have, in one way or the other. I’ve also been down the road of suicide, but wasn’t too manic depressive enough to go through with it. Though knowing what I know now back then, I would’ve instantly decide that it’s the wrong decision. Suicide is never the answer.
It’s been a while since both my work and family life sucked at the same time. But life goes on. That’s the bottom line. Life should go on. Leave it up to God or your choice of higher power. Hope. Don’t lose it.